“The best thing that you can do to yourself is to invest in the one thing that really matters is ‘You’
It would be fair to say that I was born to live life on my own terms – carefree and free spirited. My parents never put any restrictions on me and fulfilled all my wishes. I guess they did not know how to say ‘no’, even though it meant people around started calling me a ‘spoilt brat’. Mom and Dad always lived life on their terms and I grew up learning the same. School and college went off pretty fast and once I was of marriageable age and my parents started looking out for a suitable match for me, I decided to get married to the first guy they would make me meet. It might sound weird to some but that was my decision and I loved living life on my own terms. I was against the idea of checking out various matrimonial alliances before saying ‘yes’ to one. Luckily the first guy I met (my husband to be) was the best thing that I could have ever asked for (touchwood). So basically I never repented taking my life decisions on my own (of course with my parents unconditional support).
Marriage was a lot different than my earlier life as now I was supposed to be the perfect wife, doting mother and quintessential daughter in law and somewhere the ‘living life on my terms’ scenario took a back seat and I learnt how to live the way others wanted me to. But I think the actual me was hiding somewhere within, waiting to pop out and surprise me. Slowly, I started feeling the old but exciting me take over the new but very boring me and I allowed the transformation to take place. Gradually, I began feeling a change in the way I was living my life since the time I got surrounded by responsibilities and slowly the people around me started noticing the changes too. Reactions varied from happiness to shock but I was okay with any positive or negative feedback that I was getting as I was delighted to live the way I wanted to. The power to do it came from the support of my life partner and my writing as both allowed me to express and live the way I wished. It does get difficult at times when all you hear about yourself are negative comments but these are nowhere compared to the happiness I get from living on my terms.
When I was born, they asked my parents why.
When I grew up, they asked me why I wasn’t shy.
When I fell, they wanted me to fall apart.
When I stood up again, they asked me about my next fall.
When I swirled around in the world outside, they asked me not to spoil the name.
When I won the first trophy, they asked me how much I paid for the same.
But I paid no heed, for my life, was mine.
To jump, to run, to fall, and to fly.
For it’s my life, and no one can ever ask me why.
About the author:
Anuradha Kapoor- a freelance author, blogger, content writer, script writer, editor and proof reader. I am one of the top bloggers on mycity4kids and have written blogs for various brands for them. For eg. Dabur Chywanprash, Surf Excel, Mirinda, Quaker Oats, HP Printers etc. I recently published my first ebook on Amazon, titled ‘Love Conquers All’. I have written short stories and episode stories for the ‘Potboiler App’. Hope to keep you all entertained through my stories and blogs.
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